The Mistake that Everyone Saw - #255
Have you ever made a mistake while riding and then spent hours, days, or even months thinking about it?
Maybe other people saw it happen. Maybe you immediately started wondering what they thought. Or perhaps one mistake turned into a much bigger story in your head: “I can’t see a distance.” “I’m not good enough to ride at this level.” “Everyone thinks I’m terrible.” “Maybe I’m not ready for this.”
In this episode, we explore why a mistake can feel so much bigger than the few seconds it actually took to happen, and how the meaning we attach to that mistake can keep affecting our riding long after the moment has passed.
I and Lorna discuss:
- Why we often care so much about other people seeing our mistakes
- How our own judgement of a mistake can amplify our worries about other people's opinions
- The difference between a mistake and the story you create around it
- How a growth mindset can help you see mistakes as information rather than proof that you're not good enough
- Why stepping up a level often brings old fears and patterns back to the surface
- How your brain can turn one uncomfortable experience into a rule designed to keep you safe
- Why you don't need to eliminate nerves, fear or self-doubt before you can ride effectively
- How you can be nervous and still ride your canter
- Why trying to stop thinking about something can actually make the thought stronger
- How redirecting your attention can help you get back to what matters during a round
- The difference between avoidance and acceptance
- Why getting comfortable with being uncomfortable is part of personal growth
- How to start unravelling the deeper beliefs and identity stories sitting underneath a mistake
Resources Mentioned:
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