Angry at Your Horse… Then Guilty After? 👇 - #238

In this honest and powerful episode of the Equestrian Performance Mindset Podcast, I and Lorna dive deep into something so many riders experience… but rarely talk openly about: 👉 anger, frustration, and the self-judgment that follows.

This episode was inspired by a listener question about losing patience with her horse after a difficult moment crossing a bridge, and the emotional spiral that followed afterward.

Together, we unpack:

• Why anger often has nothing to do with the obstacle itself
• The hidden emotions underneath frustration in riding
• Why riders take their horse’s behaviour personally
• How powerlessness and fear can trigger emotional reactions
• The connection between perfectionism, self-worth, and riding struggles
• How to stop spiraling into guilt and shame after difficult moments
• Why your horse isn’t “doing it to you”
• How to approach emotional triggers with more awareness and compassion

This episode is an important reminder that emotional reactions don’t make you a bad rider, they make you human.

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